No more secrets

April 23, 2018

I was spoiled on my 49th birthday in the most lovely way! Robin Farrell who does the morning show on Ocean 98.5 arrange a surprise trip to MD Esthetics (who she endorses) so I could have some treatments as a birthday gift, plus get started on a fantastic skin care plan.

It wasn’t about desperately trying to look younger, it was about feeling and looking my best as I head into mid-life. Robin looks fantastic and her outward appearance is augmented by the sparkle in her eye, spring in her step and zest for life. She knew that I had been feeling frustrated with a few changes in my skin and some of the other facial changes as I was getting older, things that I was trying to take in stride as gracefully as possible, but as I looked in the mirror it didn’t feel like me looking back.

I was a bit unsettled by my reaction, laugh lines had always been something I said I would embrace and love every single one of, and I do, but the droopy eyes and some of the other sag was totally unexpected and I was NOT digging it. NOPE, not at all.

After Robin took me on this little adventure we had some back lash at the station, Mom’s saying that we were setting a crappy example for their daughters by not letting nature take it’s course and being happy with it. Well. I had to pause for a moment. Could this be true? I am a 5 foot tall, middle aged women with a fat battle that I am sometimes winning and sometimes not. I have even been on billboards in all that glory, standing in front of thousands and even in a wrestling singlet at a world event competing as an athlete representing Canada. Outside of always trying to have fabulous hair and on occasion having a skin routine, I have rarely hidden or went out of the way to change the way I looked.. I have embraced the moments and not let societies preset ideas of beauty dampen some career highs.

Yet here I was THRILLED with a botox treatment!  I said it. BOTOX. BOOOOOOTOXXXXXXX.

It is awesome. Subtle. Perfect. I look in the mirror and I see me! A very happy me! MD Esthetics offers a few different treatments to make sure you see the reflection you want in the mirror that I am considering as well.

The complaints that I heard about setting a bad example for girls growing up, didn’t fall on ears that weren’t listening. I took a moment and truly thought about the why’s of what I was doing and if I was behaving in a way that might be setting a poor example for generations behind me. Here is where I stand.

NO MORE SECRETS.

That for me is the trouble spot. People pretending behind photoshop or enhancement procedures. That is  what sets up unrealistic expectations for youth. If someone says to me.. “Susan! You look great! What’s your secret??” I will happily say “Thank you and go see the team at MD Esthetics, they work wonders!” If they have more questions I will tell anyone exactly what worked for me. If my niece says to my sister, “I hope I look as great as Auntie Susie when I am old.” I hope she says, “You will,” and follows up with a smile and tells her to ask me about the first botox shot I had.

No secrets, no shame.

As my new friends at MD Esthetics say:  Feel Confident. Be Yourself. Look Amazing.

If you want to know more, just ask! Myself, Robin Farrell or the wonderful team at MD Esthetics. The best possibly thing you can invest in is yourself, and when you do, it should always make you smile!

Look who turned 49!

March 21, 2018

 

So much of this list in one picture!

I am calling 49 my “good-bye” year as I gear up to say “hello” to 50 and all that this stage of life has to offer!

So I made a list.

This list is the top 49 lessons of the last 49 years. I didn’t include a few big ones like learning to walk, potty training and speech.. but they are kind of a given, mind you learning to spell anything longer than the word “cat” was fairly monumental in my life.

Anyhoo.. here we go!

#1. Laser Hair Removal. If you want to be hairless it is 100% worth it.

#2. Buy clothes that fit. Seriously, don’t even worry about that stupid number, just buy what fits, it looks better and you will be more comfortable.

#3. Cry with yourself, but have a time limit. We all need a pity party now and then, watch those tears pour down your face and have a good melt down, then move on.

#4. Love Fearlessly. It’s the only way. It will lead to hurt so bad you want to rip your heart out, but big picture totally worth it.

#5. Learn now to manage your money and learn young.  Start HERE

#6. Compliment often. Strangers, coworkers, friends, lovers! If they say, wear, do, create something you like – tell them.

#7. Say Hi to strangers. Everyday.

#8. Live for someone else, even if it’s just for a moment.

#9. Be clear in what you want, in life, love and professionally.

#10. Do the work.

#11. Celebrate the smallest of victories both professionally and personally.

#12. Be true to you but gut check often and listen to what others are saying both verbally and non verbally.

#13. Learn to shut up.

#14. Sometimes it’s okay to be totally unreasonably. Just don’t make it a habit and accept the repercussions.

#15. Ask.

#16. Praise publicly.

#17. Correct privately.

#18. Make mistakes – and own them.

#19. Find the best. Watch, ask, mimic, move on.

#20. See their faults. Accept them.

#21. Be kind, when it’s the last thing you want to do.

#22. Happy thoughts – you control your mind. (thanks Bob)

#23. Listen to all – Decide for yourself

#24. Respect hierarchy but don’t let it hold you back.

#25. Find your tribe. Love your tribe. Know it will change.

#26. Have a “go to” outfit (casual / dressy / professional)

#27. Have a “go to” fancy and comfort food meal.

#28. Quit smoking. Seriously. Shut up and quit smoking.

#29. Have an up to date passport.

#30. Cut ties. Family, friends, professional contacts. If you have to, do it. Do it simply, professionally, and with class but move on.

#31. Ask Questions. If you don’t get the knowledge you need ask different questions or ask different people. Don’t stop.

#32. Be solution driven.

#33. Try it.

#34. Make sure that person is okay. The person crying in the bathroom stall, the person that hopefully is sleeping on the park bench, the person that just seems off..

#35. Learn to speak hypothetical.

#36. Social media isn’t the enemy. The way you use it is.

#37. Apologies.

#38. What goes around comes around — sometime YOU are the come around.

#39. Lose with class.

#40. It’s not all about you and that’s okay.

#41. Help when you can and sometimes when you don’t think you can.

#42. Seek help when you need it, and do it quickly.

#43.  The only person that defines your success is you. Understand this is a blessing and a curse.

#44. You will change. Physically, emotionally and spiritually.

#45. Laugh.

#46. Do what scares you – on your own time.

#47. Leave when unhappy. Do not stay in a marriage, work situation or place that makes you fundamentally miserable, Before you leave be confident you tried to make it work.

#48.Laugh at yourself. You’re funny.

#49. Give ALL the F&C@s. The world is worth you caring.

 

WORLD RADIO DAY!

February 14, 2018

It’s World Radio Day! Much of the time in radio we talk about the listener, because that is truly who it is all about. Today I am going to turn that around. Radio is full of colorful characters! Brilliant minds, and not just creative ones but also problem solvers in the most linear logical fashion. People motivated by a muse and people motivated by a dollar. People learning to work with personality types that clash loudly, yet that is where the brilliance lies. Radio is creativity, meets technology meets bottom-lines and it THRIVES! Sometimes being in radio can be surreal.. real life is suspended as you dress up like a football and get tackled for concert tickets, wakesurf 100K for charity, talk to someone who called feeling desperately alone until help arrives or working for hours on a piece of radio magic that takes 45 seconds to deliver and once delivered it’s gone. I love the pieces that come together to make great radio, the many voices in many departments that work together to paint a big fabulous audio picture! Working in radio you are part of the change in the world. Words hold power and the best broadcasters know it, revel in it, take responsibility for it, change the world with it. I could go on and on and on.. but I have a mic waiting for me. Big love to the broadcasters that make the magic happen everyday. xx

That’s my girl!

November 29, 2016

My first full time job in radio came just after my graduation at Fanshawe College. There was a few of us in line for the gig, but I succeeded and the job was mine! It wasn’t until later I discovered that part of the reason I got that job was because I was female and there was a mandate at the time for a more equal work place.

That wasn’t the best discovery ever.

Lots of doubt followed, but I determined that I would work three times as hard to “get up to speed” and make sure I didn’t disappoint the people who took a chance on me. (You know who you are!)

My journey hasn’t been without bumps but I hit my stride; and yet have never really lost that feeling I need to “get up to speed” or let down the people who first believed in me. That insecruity has been part of what has driven my success.

Over the past couple months we have been building the new team at Q103.1 and I made a fabulous discovery as the resumes and audio crossed my desk.

We have come a long way baby!

long-way

 

We had a strong selection of men to consider, but the women! Different sounds, characters and levels of experience, but so much talent! It has been a joy and privilege to listen to so many broadcasters that won’t be hire to help create balance in the work place based on their sex along with a base level of talent. Nope.. these ladies SHINE with creativity, talent and strength. We now have enough wagons to circle and we are. Women are building each other up and pushing each other to new levels of success.

I salut the women who came before me that lit the path in the time when it was toughest. I am just one of the women that are reaping the benifits from the work you put in. I am thrilled by the women I see that will benefit from the doors I have played a role in breaking down.

Is there still a “glass ceiling?” Do we still walk out of meeting dominate by ties and wonder if we are taken as seriously as we should be? On the odd occasion are we still called dear and asked to grab the coffee? Do women still gather and are mystified by decisions made by men on what the female demo will like? Do we still get labeled overly-emotional and/or a bitch when it’s better described as passion and leadership?

You bet. (Seriously even the being called dear and asking to do a coffee run) 

But, more and more men are joining us in the bafflement over sexist behaviour or at the very least are willing to consider that past attitudes might need adjustment. It is an exciting time in radio.

Keep it up ladies, I am thrilled to have the opportunity to witness what’s to come.

 

 

 

It seems like a good idea..

November 26, 2016

It’s happened.

That thing so many of us talks about… What YOU would do if you were the boss.

Holy crap. I’m the boss.

Come the spring I will be the new Program Director at Q103.1 (as long as I don’t do anything too too horrible) This means I am in the process of hiring a new team.

leaders

 

I have said it and agreed with it a quizillion times. The concept that you should hire people smarter than you and be the best manager of their smarts as you can.

Lots of smart people agree with this idea!

As former Apple CEO Steve Jobs famously said “it doesn’t make sense to hire smart people and tell them what to do; we hire smart people so they can tell us what to do.”

“Hire people who are smarter than you! In doing so, you prevent limiting the organization to the level of your own ability—and you grow the capabilities of your company.” Kauffman reportedly stated before his death. “If you hire people you consider smarter than you, you are more likely to listen to their thoughts and ideas, and this is the best way to expand on your own capabilities and build the strength of your company.”

“Try never to be the smartest person in the room. And if you are, I suggest you invite smarter people … or find a different room.” Michael Dell

“Greatness starts with the humility to hire people who are much smarter than you.”Guy Kawasaki

I will now let you in on a secret. This concept is easy to say, even somewhat easy to do in the hiring process, but day to day managing of that concept I can see being a challenge for someone who has finally stepped into a position they have wanted for years.

Cue maturity. <—- Whatttttttttttttt???

Turns out that I will be a better manager today than I would of been 15 years ago when I first wanted a program directors job, not only because of how much I have learned about radio in the last 15 years, but more so because of how much I have learned about myself and personalities like mine.  15 years ago I liked to talk about managers hiring people “smarter” than they were but I never once thought about what it would mean to hire and manage a team that is smarter than you.. what does that actually look like?

I am about to find out, because that is exactly what I am doing. It is thrilling and terrifying all at the same time.

Stick with me, it’s going to be a fun and sometimes bumpy ride.

 

 

 

Rocks in that jelly!

November 15, 2016

belly-laugh

 

 

Fat loss is such a pain in the ass. I have tackled this issue head on and hired some help for the process. At this point in involves weekly measurments with calipers – oh joy. I tend to make small jokes while this delightful process is on the go. Today while the calipers were clasped on my ample belly I made a seasonal joke that it shook like a bowl full of jelly. The quick retort fro the woman wielding the hot dog tongs with teeth was; “only if the bowl of jelly has rocks in it, there is some serious muscle in there!”

So while my ego is generally not pleased with the whole fatty mess.. it did get a happy little pat.

 

Onwards!

 

 

Ten Good Things That Happened (So Far) This Year

November 12, 2016

Ten Good Things That Happened This Year

Someone posted a huge list of GOOD things that have happened in the world this year.  So if you’re sick of all the negativity, here are ten things from the list that are pretty amazing . . .

1.  Scientists may have found the gene responsible for ALS.  And funding for the study came from the Ice Bucket Challenge.

2.  We figured out a new stem-cell therapy that can halt the effects of Multiple Sclerosis.

3.  In March, 800 hostages were rescued from the terror group Boko Haram in Nigeria.

4.  Solar panels in California started producing enough electricity to power six million homes, which is a new record.  And a solar-powered plane flew around the world.

5.  Back in July, volunteers in India planted 50 million trees in less than 24 hours.

6.  The number of wild tigers, manatees, and giant pandas is up.

7.  Leonardo DiCaprio finally won an OSCAR for “The Revenant”.  Obviously not everyone thinks he deserved it, but most people do.

8.  Starbucks all over the country started donating their unsold food to food banks.

9.  The hole in the ozone layer finally started healing itself.  Scientists have been waiting for it to happen since we banned certain chemicals in aerosols 30 years ago.

10.  We’re closer to helping paralyzed people walk again.  Just this week, scientists in Switzerland said they used a brain implant to help a paralyzed monkey walk again.  (Buzzfeed)

(Check out the full list here.)

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